Transformational Coach, Mimi Bland Shares her Unique Journey of Self Love & Change

Pamela Bardhi
Hello, everyone, and welcome to another episode of underdog today I have an incredible guest here with me, Mimi, how are you?

Mimi Bland
Hello, thank you so much. You’re amazing. Thank you so much. I’m really excited to be speaking with you this evening.

Pamela Bardhi
I’m so excited to have you here. It is such an honor your energy is infectious. Your story is unbelievable. And you’re just a remarkable woman like a coach, you’re an author. I mean, you’re just all over the place in the most beautiful ways. So I’m going to start you off with my favorite question. One of them, one of them, which is what inspired you on your journey to where you are today.

Mimi Bland
I think what inspired me today is more about the sort of like in when we’re born, we’ve got so many beliefs that were instilled in. And for me now it’s breaking down those myths, breaking down that belief system that we’ve been taught since we were young children. And really educating and teaching people that not all that we’ve been taught is the truth. We actually create the truth for ourselves that we create our own lives. So for me, I’m on a personal mission, to really sort of like to transform people’s lives. To teach them a new way of thinking a new way of being so that they can start living the life that they actually want to live. So I think that’s really important to me. It’s my personal mission.

Pamela Bardhi
So meaning, that’s amazing. What did you want to be when you grew up?

Mimi Bland
Oh, when I was a child, I wanted to be an air hostess. And that host so my mother always wanted to be a mother. I love nurturing. And that dream came true. So I have two amazing sons. But they’re two amazing children. That dream came true the air stewardess never did. So maybe later on in Elisa’s life.

Pamela Bardhi
Amazing, maybe, and now in your world. So wanting to help and nurture? How did that sort of come about? What sparked that passion in you?

Mimi Bland
Since I was a young child, I always had a vision since I was about six, I used to have these dreams. And this dream was always about like, I don’t know, it was a weird one. But it was just eliminating pain and suffering from humanity. I always just had the same dream as a child and I always knew that I wanted to do something amazing in the world. I wanted to go out there and make an impact in the world, even at that young age. So nurturing was just something that I used to love doing. So you know, I said play with my dolls and things like that. And I still love taking care of them, nurturing them, and looking after them. But there was always a bigger mission behind that growing up, like I said, from a very young age.

Pamela Bardhi
That’s incredible. And were there any influences in your life that sort of sparked any mentors that you had early on as a kid?

Mimi Bland
No nothing cuz I’m just I used to go to church a lot when I was younger. And apparently like every single time the minister used to say who wants to come down and get blessings, I’d be off, even at the age of five. I Trundle down to the front of the pole chair. I’d sit on a chair higher than the priests. And I’d give blessings to everybody that was sitting in this. It was just I think it was a calling from a very young age.

I remember I always wanted to be a nun. From a very young age, I have always loved to be in communion. And loved that whole piece of being one with like that pieces even though I didn’t know at that time, what it was. I love that sort of going within myself. Having that deep connection with God or with Source energy or whatever and I had that from a very young age.

Pamela Bardhi
That’s fantastic. So now shifting into sort of your, your teenage years, how did you sort of carrying on that passion? Because it seems like you’ve had it since you were a child, which is a man?

Mimi Bland
Well, I think sort of growing up, I had a lot of adversity, so sort of like I grew up in a home that was very strict. And my mother obviously her mother died when she was a young child and she was put raised with the nuns who done some awful things to her. She used to wet the bed at a young age and this punish her severely. So growing up my mom, obviously, they don’t know they can only teach you what they were taught as a child. I had a lot of fear put into me as a child. I used to wet the bed every day. So I used to be severely punished for that. And the household was very regimented.

And was also told that growing up there is only job was to be subservient to men, so wills to be seen and not heard. So we grew up very fearful sort of like existence. Even though a lot of things happened to me, through my childhood, I always had amazing compassion. So I could always understand why people did the things they did, or why they felt the way they did. That was something I carried on throughout my whole life.

The problem started really was when I left home, and then I started having relationships, I then carried on repeating that same pattern. So that pattern or feeling unworthy or not feeling good enough. I attracted men that obviously just mirrored the way I was thinking and feeling. But still, at the same time, I still understood why they were being abusive. Or why they were treating me the way they did. So it was a bit of a strange scenario.

Pamela Bardhi
Thank you so much for sharing that Mimi. And a lot of parallels in our worlds, I would say, growing up, so I’m from Albania. I was born in Albania in Tirana. It’s like, that was the culture, it was like, the man is the head of the household. You are to sit down and listen. And this was just societal culture. I mean, my dad was always like, eff that, Pam, you’re not doing that, you know? it’s like, you’re not, the man will need you. You don’t need him. Like, he was always, feeding me these affirmations as a kid, but all around you in society? I mean, a lot of it still is that way. Right? now are rising up incredibly, but that’s what I was for a very, very long time.

Mimi Bland
Definitely. Yeah. And I think people don’t understand it, those seeds. So whatever you’ve been implanted in your mind from a young child. Every day I was told I was a waste of time, I was useless. I’ve never been anything. So you got that constant sort of like embedded inside of you. Then you attract people, which you don’t know at the time, that just keep repeating that belief system. Because if you believe something to be true, then the universe has to bring you the people and the situations to match what is you know. What you’re believing inside of yourself, even though you don’t realize it at that time, that’s what’s happening. You go throughout your whole life attracting the same people, the same experiences because that’s what you’re outputting? Constantly.

Pamela Bardhi
Yes. And that’s the thing is our energy, or in our frequency, if you’re on a lower frequency vibration. And you have these thought processes in your kind of living life, just passing by. You’ll get caught in these energy patterns that you never even know existed.

Mimi Bland
Yeah. And most people because they are subconscious to a degree, we have no idea what’s running us. So for me, if there were like, 5000 men in a room, I would pick the one man that would reject me. I would pick him and I would hate it on him because I knew that he would make me feel unworthy. And so basically, I pick people that mirror how you feel inside of yourself, even what comes out of their mouth. They are only reflecting how you feel about yourself also. So like you said, that’s something that you have to learn at that time. I had no comprehension of why I kept repeating the same old life patterns.

Pamela Bardhi
Isn’t it crazy? How it will just continue and continue? You? Yeah, you make you’re just like, I’m sick of this dish?

Mimi Bland
Yeah, it’s different faces, different places, same life experiences. And most people, I still work with people now that are in their 80s. And they’re still carrying on the same pattern. Because you don’t know. You don’t know what you don’t know. You know, you just think that’s just a normal way of living. I didn’t know, people used to say to me, you know, what is wrong with you? I’d be like, What do you mean? Well, why would you let somebody lock you up? I mean, I used to be locked in a little tiny cupboard with a baby’s potty, because I was too disgusting to be seen.

And like if I ever did if I was ever out, and I used to tell somebody certain things, I’d be like, Well, what is wrong with you? And I think that I was mad because I’d be like, what’s wrong with you? Because that was my normality. So I didn’t know any different so is when you’re living a certain lifestyle. You don’t know any different. That’s because that has become your as you said, it’s become your normality for you. So,

Pamela Bardhi
Which is crazy and you had mentioned so this continues this pattern continued for you for years.

Mimi Bland
Yeah, for the majority of my life, I would always meet people that I was very subservient to. I was never allowed to have a voice really. I was told what was allowed to do when I could do it. What money I could have what money I couldn’t have if I could have a bank account or not. If I could drive if I couldn’t drive, what clothes I had to wear. And I used to have to sort of like nothing was I never had any say in my life at all. As I said, it was like not even when somebody was speaking to me. And I just have to look down and if I looked at them it was just ridiculous.

And looking back now you sometimes I think myself, God, where was your mind? where? How could your mindset be so scary that language was so ft that you even had that thought process going through your head? Were you too afraid to look up at someone when they spoke? I remember once getting dressed to go out. I remember getting in the car to go out with him. He looked at me so disgustingly and he said, I would never be seen dead with someone like you made me go back indoors. And I had to sit on the floor facing the wall because it was too disgusting to be looked at. Now I think to myself, Oh, my God. Like where were you, what was the thought process going through your head? At the time, that was acceptable. Because I didn’t know any different.

So now when I work with people, I can really understand them. Because I’ve been there. You know, I tried to commit suicide a few times. At that time, I didn’t know any other way of changing myself. And I couldn’t understand why I kept repeating a similar life pattern that was never changing, though. You know, sometimes as you said, you don’t know what you don’t know. That’s why people get stuck. And they go to therapy for years and years and years, and nothing changes. Because we are talking about the same stuff every single day. So when you talk about the stuff that you’ve lived, you can’t change it because you’re just reliving it all the time.

Pamela Bardhi
Right. Mimi, thank you so much for sharing that. It’s not an easy road. And it’s also not an easy road to kind of realize that you’re in this pattern. Like, what sparked the change in you, as you had mentioned? Like you didn’t want to be here?

Mimi Bland
Yeah, weren’t sure how to change? It was a very specific moment for me. I even remember the time and it just goes to show you subconsciously where how you do things because I went to a hospital. So that obviously proved that I didn’t really want to die because I sat in a hospital carpark. And I was going to actually cut my wrist and it sounds so weak now when you think about it. But at that time, I just thought I couldn’t be a mother to my two sons. Because I had the mentality of an eight-year-old. So I didn’t even know how to look after these children and I hadn’t had the ability. As I said, I didn’t know how to earn money. I didn’t know how to do anything.

So I remember I started in a call and I was about to cut my wrist and my son at the time, was very intuitive. He called me and I wasn’t going to pick the phone up. And I thought I’d just pick the phone up for him. I sit in hay and he said, Mom, I don’t know where you are. I don’t know what you’re about to do. But please come home, I promise you everything would change. At that moment, I want to put the phone down, I just realized that I don’t know something had just completely snapped in my head. And I realized that there is a way and I just had to find a different way. So that was my whole life change from that moment. Onwards after that.

Pamela Bardhi
Wow. And he called you right at that moment.

Mimi Bland
Right at that moment. Yeah, right at that moment. And I had a lot of things going on before that. So I used to have a lot of visions. A lot of things that happened to me that would be like, I don’t say divine intervention, but a lot of things are happening. But I wasn’t picking up the signs at that time. Because I was too engrossed in my own problems. I was too engrossed in poor me, why is this happening to me? Like, what am I doing wrong? And that was my whole mindset wasn’t it until I realized. Then I really went on a quest then to really find out about how my mind and body were working. Because I’ve been to so many therapists, and I tried so many different things.

I trained in hypnotherapy, I trained in life coaching, Reiki, NLP, I tried. I trained in everything to help myself, but nothing was really working. It would be like you’d feel good for an hour, two hours, you talk to someone and you’d come out and you feel great. But it was no lasting change. So I really wanted to know, like, how does our mind how does this machine work? And how is our body connected to this? So what are the signals? What’s happening, that you can really get in and make those permanent changes inside of yourself?

Pamela Bardhi
That’s incredible. So after that, how did your quest begin? After you? You know, that shift happened after your song called that? What was the process? Like? Because this is the type of thing that I get asked about all the time. And it’s like, well, how do you realize that you’re in these patterns? And then how do you break out of them and find your way out from previous habits and thought processes?

Mimi Bland
Yeah, well, for me, it was like a jigsaw puzzle. I think unless you decide, you have to make a decision that you want to change. Because if you don’t, nothing will ever change. So you have to first make that decision. And as soon as you make that decision, then people, places, and things will start coming to you because you’re looking for those answers. But the first step I definitely think is awareness.

You definitely have to become aware of who you are, your patterns, how you’re thinking how you’re feeling your habits, and your behaviors. Because when you can start looking at yourself, then you can start seeing your program, the programs that are running you. And then you can change them, you can interrupt them, you can put their new programs of where you’re going and who you know you want to become. So I think the first step is definitely awareness.

Pamela Bardhi
And then after the awareness, how do you create kind of that blueprint of change? Like, what was it like for you? Because I can imagine years and years and years of subconscious thinking in this thought process. I mean, that digs pretty deep, you know, what was your journey like through that.

Mimi Bland
It was hard, don’t get me wrong, and every day is still the same. And I still have fragments of the old me in there. But now what happens is like I’ve learned to master myself. Now it’s like going to the gym, you don’t get a six or an eight pack in one go. It takes time, it takes repetition. And it takes dedication. So for me now, I’m so aware of myself, that now I can notice if I get triggered. If there’s something that triggers me all, I get that little feeling, I know that it’s a feeling from the past. So I can censor myself because stay in the now and I can just let it go. Then I focus on where I’m going that, as you said, that is a practice you have that’s what I teach people.

Self Mastery, learning to master yourself, master your thoughts, and master your emotions. Because once you’ve got that, then you become resilient to anything that’s happening outside of you. And then you can become the creator of your life rather than a Regurgitator. And constantly responding to everything that’s happening outside of yourself.

Pamela Bardhi
Right? And what would be your recommendation on this? I would imagine that part of the journey is Release, release work.

Mimi Bland
Yeah, definitely like it’s letting go. It’s not really about learning. It’s about letting go. And I think if you don’t have the foundation of who you are, then you’re never going to be able to really understand anything about life. Because you’re always going to be building on a foundation that’s not solid. So I think, you know, for me, I like to take people back to the beginning of who we actually are. Because when we’re born, we’re born whole and complete. And it’s only for our life experiences through what our parents have told us through. Through teachers, through personal life experiences, that we create these beliefs, we create these stories.

And then this whole perception of life is what controls every single thing about us. We have to remember where energy beings were just a vibration. So whatever vibration, we’re putting out Law of Attraction is mirroring us is bringing us back to what we expect. Until we have that foundation of who we are. Then you can understand that anything that’s manmade, is that that comes from our life experiences. But really, we’re spiritual beings. So anything that feels good, anything that feels whole, anything that feels complete. You know that when you feel depressed or angry, it doesn’t feel good. Because it’s not who we are, it’s not part of us. Anything that makes you feel happy and joyful, makes you feel great because that’s who we truly are. It’s about having that divide.

And I like to teach people like that’s old and the new, so it’s about letting go of the old and creating the new. But as you said, it’s a practice and it takes time. And you do have to have people around you that can really support you. Because you’re going to go through some really dark times. Your mind and your body, like a wild horse is going to continuously keep trying to bring you back like this is who you are. And you have to keep breaking that pattern.

Pamela Bardhi
And that’s the hardest part and breaking that pattern. What kept you motivated to break that pattern? And what was that transition? Like for you? Cuz I know, once you got there, it was like you hit the ground running?

Mimi Bland
Yeah, I mean, don’t get me wrong, I’m still not where I want to be. But for me, I realized that we only have one life to live. That’s it. And we don’t know how long that life is. So why don’t want to live a life in misery and sorrow reflecting on anything that ever happened in the past everything that happens to me, I look at it as a lesson? So what did it teach me? What did it teach me about myself? What did it teach me about relationships, but it taught me that I want to be loved and adored? And it taught me that I want to find myself I want to be happy with who I am. So each note for me I don’t so much set goals.

I set more at the end of each year about who I want to become at the end of each year. So this year, I’ve accomplished X, Y, and Z next year, I want to even better myself. So for me, at the end of my life, I want to look back and think you know what, I’m so proud of myself because I’ve achieved everything that I wanted to achieve for myself. We’re born to have a joyful life experience. We’re here to be happy and we were brought up in such a negative world. We really have to like use and have a clear vision of what we want and where we want to go and make it fun.

Because I think we’re so obsessed with like you said money and all the things that aren’t really that important. But money comes along to you when you’re happy, you know? So yeah, for me now it’s about being consistent. And just living the life that I wanted. I choose to live and be happy every single day because you’re a longtime dead.

Pamela Bardhi
It’s amazing maybe what’s crazy, though like is a lot of people think that money answers all the happiness questions like it checks off all the boxes. And that couldn’t be further from the truth. I know people who are so crazy rich, and they are so crazy miserable. Like it does not equate to that, but it’s almost like a superficial layer of like, well, if you have this, then you’ll be happy. Oh, you have this, you know, it’s our consumer world. But really, what matters is what’s happening deep within us.

Mimi Bland
Yeah, and you can have it all. We think, Oh if your spiritual being you can’t have money, it’s rubbish. But I work with so many millionaires and billionaires and every single time they’ve made their money. All they’re doing is going climbing Kilimanjaro and stuff. Because what they do is to have a balance in life, they pursue money but then their relationships break down. And then they have no relationships with their children, or then they have ill health. So it’s about a balance like you said, we have an illusion. That if we have the money, then we can buy the Ferrari, we can have a big house, and then we’re gonna be happy. It doesn’t, that just makes you empty and lonely in a big house. So you have to have an equal balance in life. And those, you’ve got to have a balance

Pamela Bardhi
100% Maybe I love everything that you’re saying, Thank you so much for sharing all of that. And I know I mean, you’ve had quite a journey, I mean, my God, from going to where you were. To be this outstanding role model kicking out there, like just transforming lives and all of that. I mean, and you written a book that was a best seller. So tell us a little bit about that. And your journey in writing that and a little bit of that. Are you there?

Mimi Bland
Yeah, I wrote the book, The answer is you. The reason I wrote it, I wanted a real keep it simple, stupid book, because there’s so many books out there. And they talk about, you know, they go too deep about the mind. You know all about the different aspects of everything. But I just wanted to write a book that people can understand how your thoughts and your emotions create everything. And the formula for me is the formula for life. So I wrote that little book so that any person could pick it up, and really get an understanding of who you are and how you work in life. For me, I really am passionate about re-educating people, because I think we’re so blindfolded. We’re just hypnotized by the things that we’re taught, but we never question who makes this stuff up?

Who says that we can’t heal our bodies? Who says that. Because we look at everything with our senses. So for instance, like, if you have cancer, then you look at what everybody else is dying of cancer. So that must be natural progress, but it’s not. You know, cancer or illnesses living side of us, but we can change and repair anything that happens to us all a belief system. And I just really want to educate people that don’t believe everything you were told, you know, I had cysts, I had tumors. I was bulimic for 10 years because I left abusive relationships, I abused myself for years, but I healed my own body. And I have done that with mirror work.

So mirror works really, really powerful. And I work with other people that have had cancer, Parkinson’s. I know the people that are going to heal, and I know the ones that are going to die. And it sounds awful. Because it’s what you tell yourself. You know, it’s as simple as that your mind is very, very powerful. It can either make you or break you can either work for yourself or work against you. So yeah, I’m on a mission now too, to educate, and to self-empower people.

Pamela Bardhi
That’s so incredible. I mean, I’ve never heard of mirror work. What exactly is that?

Mimi Bland
Mirror work is so powerful. So I remember years ago, what I read in the Bible about it was a guy who was disabled. And he read in the Bible that obviously creation is complete, you know, whatever you ask for is already complete. It’s already made, it’s created. So if you ask if you want 5 million pounds if you want to be healed. As soon as you ask for it, it’s completed. The only thing that stops us is ourselves, the resistance. Our own belief system stops us from having or attaining anything. I read in the Bible this story years ago, about this guy who was disabled and he read in the chapters that he was healed. Say whence the pulpit and he said in front of all these 1000s of people, I am healed. And obviously, he was completely paralyzed.

But three months later, he actually completely healed his body and he got the BM, his legs, the use of his legs, and everything else. And obviously, I’ve worked with Dr. Joe Dispenza, as well for a long, long time. He obviously healed the whole of his body as well so he was completely from his neck down parallel. I said that he would never walk, walk again. And within three months, he completely retrained his body. He gave his body a blueprint of how to mend itself and then walked out of the hospital. Now he shows people how to heal themselves every day, blind people, people that are deaf. So I then did the same thing to myself.

So I was believing for 10 years. As I said, I was about five and a half stone, my organs were all completely messed up. And I could feel my own body was dying. Because like I said, it’s a sensation in your body, I could feel my organs were shutting down. And then my family didn’t even know that I was believing. To be honest, no one knew, I hit it so well, but I’d be making myself sick really, four or five times a day. I read in the Bible, this chapter, and I tried everything. I tried therapy, I tried a lot of things, nothing works. So I’ve done mirror work.

So mirror work is when you literally stand in front of a mirror, and you look into your own eyes. Because your eyes are the windows of your soul. And I commanded that I was healed. I told myself, you have to use words that resonate with you. That’s why when they say use affirmations and things, you can’t use affirmations, you don’t believe it, you have to have words that you really believe in. For me, because I was brought up in church, and I really believed in the words of Jesus Christ. And things I use that because it was powerful for me to like, connect with. So I remember looking in the mirror, and I’d say, I command you believe me to leave my body.

In the name of Jesus Christ, no, I just value from my body would have been two days that believe I had left my body completely. And I wasn’t sick again. After that, it literally sounds really bizarre. It left every single, there was no trace of it left within me. But then, three weeks after that, I bumped into somebody who used to abuse me. And straightaway the trigger, then triggered me back to being bulimic again, and I thought, Okay, I’m not going to have this. So I’m going to go back to the mirror and do it again. This time, it never worked. The difference was because I didn’t believe it the second time.

The first time I wanted it the second time, excuse the language, I felt like a piece of shit. I didn’t believe I was worthy of being healed. So I had to go back and do the cleaning unpacks on myself. And when I got back into a place of strength, and I said it again. That was I mean, I haven’t been believing it for 7 8 10 years now. So that’s completely gone. So mirror work is really, really powerful. You can say, No, even if you’re idling, like, even if you’ve got a cold. I mean, it doesn’t matter what you have, you can just command yourself and it does work. And people think that’s just a load of rubbish. But it’s not. It’s very, very powerful.

Pamela Bardhi
That’s amazing how you could do that because I’ve heard some people mentioning that and I’m like, but I’ve never heard of anyone who actually did it, and it worked on them. That’s remarkable.

Mimi Bland
But the reason it works as well if you think about it is that we think of ourselves as being really insignificant little beings, but we’re not, we’re very powerful. And we have all the power inside of ourselves. We’re just not taught how to resurrect it. So we’re always looking and praying outside of ourselves externally. But that’s not where anything that happens is inside. So you have to command it inside of yourself. And you can make miracles, they say miracles, it’s not a miracle. It’s just you aligning with yourself. That’s all it is. But we’re just not taught that way.

Pamela Bardhi
That is incredible. It just fascinates me because it’s well. Oh, I’m just mind blown by you your story and you’re just a rock star may truly are. And I love what you’re up to in the book like the answer is you it truly is. Everyone else always seems to look outside of themselves. And like society seems to tell you, you’re so broken. No, you’re not. You don’t have the resources to know powerful you actually are. If you don’t have those, then you’re limitless.

Mimi Bland
Yeah. And there’s too I think sometimes there’s too much information out in the world. You know, I love as I said, I love the analogy. Keep it simple, stupid, because it’s simple. You know everything is coming from us, everything or pain and suffering we do to ourselves, even though we might not know how we’re doing it. But we’re always like holding on to things that happened to us in the past. And the stories that we’re telling ourselves about it, change your story, change your life, you know, change the meaning you give to everything. Because your parents might have done something bad to you when he was a child, or something might have happened. But they’re only acting on the knowledge and information they had at that time. So you can change any aspect of your life within a second.

And people say, Oh, it takes months or three months, six months. I worked with a client one time maybe twice. Never see them again, and they’re instantaneously changed. I work with a lady who had so much abuse in her life. She tried to commit suicide so many times and I was called to see him. She didn’t want to see me but in the end, she agreed. We sat on the floor together for 3 hours. And she completely transformed our life because it’s energy, it’s a shift is what you’re focusing on. So, transformation doesn’t have to take years when people tell me, they’ve been in therapy for 5 10 years. I’m like, what the hell is madness, I don’t even understand what these people are talking about. They just must love spending their money because it’s crazy.

Pamela Bardhi
Wow, maybe that’s unbelievable. I mean, three hours. Wow.

Mimi Bland
Because literally, you’re not working in their energy. You’re working in my energy, it’s my energy. So when somebody comes to me, I just see them holding complete. I see them as they are not with the pain or not with any of the things they’re telling me about. So my job is to basically eliminate everything that’s going on in their head or stories. They’re telling themselves and then create the vision of where they what they want, and where they want to go. And then show them how to get there. That’s it. You know, we’re letting go of the past and retreating and a whole new life.

Pamela Bardhi
I love that Mimi. And like, what would be some advice that you would give for anybody? Especially the reluctant ones, right, that are like, you know, that are in the space of I’m not worthy. Or they know that they need to change, but they don’t know-how, what would some advice?

Mimi Bland
Yeah, it’s just like I say it’s all a pattern, it’s just a vibration. And it’s not even with our heads, no, we’re taught change your mindset is not to do with your minds, it’s to do your body, your body is conditioned. If you’ve been feeling a certain way, or your life, if you’ve been feeling worthless, if you’ve been feeling like a piece of shit, if you’ve been if you’ve got that feeling of depression. Or whatever emotion you have memorized is inside your body. So it becomes like a drug, you need it, you have to feel it every day because that’s what you’re addicted to. So that’s why it’s really important for you to really have a vision of a new life, and with those new emotions attached to it.

Because that’s the only way you let go of the emotion that you have become addicted to, and it’s like a drug addict. There’s somebody who’s got an alcohol problem, you’ll do anything to get that fix. The same with the emotional deform worry, you’re going to find people to give you that fix to basically show you the reasons why you feel unworthy. It’s all about making a decision to really make that change and to know you’re worth it, and to understand life. So it’s fleeting, we don’t think we’ve got forever we happen. We don’t know, we’ve got no fixed timeline. So why would you live one life one day, being miserable, unhappy? Choose to live a different life and be happy and make the most of it.

Pamela Bardhi
Amen Sister. I agree with you. And that’s the hardest part, right is getting someone to that step. It’s like in realizing everything that you just mentioned, I mean, it’s critical. It’s just breaking those patterns is always the hardest, hardest, hardest part. I have people in my life that been stuck in this consistent pattern for such a long time. And it’s like, what advice would you give them to really step out of that box?

Mimi Bland
Yeah, I think his energy, as well as an environment, is key as well, if you’re around a certain environment, it’s very hard. Because your environment and your family always remind you who you are. So sometimes you have to sort of like, you know, journaling is really good. Like for me really, it’s you who have the awareness and you have to want to change because you can be in the crappiest environments. But as long as you learn to master yourself, then it doesn’t really matter. The environment then becomes an excuse, cause it’s great to be in an environment that’s really productive and stuff. And you can always find a tribe.

There’s so many things now online, there’s so many groups stop, you know, especially with women. Women love to meet up with other women and moan and bitch and whine. But what is the point nothing’s going to change? So find groups that are inspiring, read books, listen to podcasts, there’s so much stuff out there that can sort of like expand your knowledge and your mindset and make you feel good. Listen to impactful music go walking in nature. There’s so much that you can do to raise your energy because it’s about is raising your energy building that momentum. And then once you’ve built it, once you start feeling great. You don’t want to go back to feeling crap anymore. So it’s finding those people on similar mindsets. You’re on the same journey as yourself.

Pamela Bardhi
Amen. We made that environment is everything. I mean, I just learned recently too, that your DNA can mutate based on environment would, insane. And I’m like, we’re energetic beings. Here we are. Literally, what you put yourself around like now it’s scientifically proven. What more do you want?

Mimi Bland
I mean, it’s scientifically proven that you could take a child with no cancer and put them in a family with cancer. And that child would pick up those genes because like you said, everything our mom and our bodies are so powerful. You know, if you don’t learn to use this machine, it’s just a piece of junk. But when you learn to program it, then you can have the most amazing life, and you can, and life is supposed to be amazing. But you know, we’re living in a world as well as every dog.

And I really believe that we’ve said, so much darkness so much the tenant bloody tell you, I didn’t watch TV, I don’t read the papers. I don’t want to know about any of that stuff. And it’s I think we’ve fed that stuff to keep us all prisoners and in an easy to be controlled. So create the life you want to live, like, create the life you want to live will go and live it.

Pamela Bardhi
I love it, 100% agree with you. And it’s amazing. It’s amazing. I always say like, you master your mind you master your life. Yeah, how to program this thing. It’s like, you know, release anything that’s happened in the past, and just keep going and keep plugging forward. And you can attract and be whoever it is that you want to be in.

Mimi Bland
I think you can either live in a victim mentality and most people live in survival. So there is always poor me and I like well, you don’t understand like, No, this happened to me when I was five. Or this happened. I say would tell me something, I don’t know. I’ve been there. And I’ve done it. Yeah, but you don’t understand. We’ve all got we’ve all been through stuff in life, every single person, but us as a bounce off. Okay, crap happens to you. But what did what does that? What does that make you realize that you want, the girl the other day, she’s so beautiful as you kick me in all these dead-end men. And she’s like, but they keep breaking my heart. They don’t want me and so where they’re rejecting you because you’re rejecting yourself.

Until you start loving yourself and realizing that you don’t actually have to be with anyone. No one can complete you only you can complete yourself. I think until you fill up all those voids inside of yourself. So if you’re feeling lonely, if you’re feeling like you need someone to love you, you’ve got to go inside and give yourself that love. You got to make yourself feel happy. And then you have no voyage, you’re not looking for someone to complete you. Then when you meet someone, you’re meeting someone because there is a completely different energy, you know, you’re just having fun together. And if it doesn’t last, it doesn’t matter, you have an amazing time together. So I think it’s so important. You’ve got to find yourself, you’ve got to know yourself and love yourself first

What Would Mimi Older Self Tell Her Younger Self

Pamela Bardhi
100,000%. And maybe this is my favorite question ever, but what would your older self tell your younger self based on what you know, now. You’ve dropped a bunch of gems from now. So I’m like, excited to see which one you choose.

Mimi Bland
I would say you know what, stop taking life seriously, just have fun, stop being critical of yourself. You know, stop worrying about what other people think about you, who gives a shit what anyone thinks about you, as long as you like yourself. As long as you’re happy with yourself. It doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks about you or says about you. The only thing that matters is how you feel about yourself. And stop being so serious, just have fun in life. Life is meant to be fun, you know, I look at my grandchildren.

And they remind me every day what life is about, they jump out of bed every day is a fresh new day, what exciting stuff can happen today. We jump out of bed and we’re like going how boring because we can predict already what’s going to happen. So you know, have fun, get back and go. Take your shoes off and go walking in the mutton. Just be silly, you know, back on and be young again.

Pamela Bardhi
I love it very much, thank you so much for that. I adore that. And I just want to know, like what’s up in your world in the next six to 12 months, I’m so interested.

Mimi Bland
At the moment, I’m just doing a course at the moment, and I’m promoting the couple of masterclasses that I’m doing. Then I really want to start caring for a lot more women, it’s really important to me, to teach them how to master their minds, their emotions. And to really learn start to love themselves and to become whole within themselves. Stop looking for external things to feel and to make them feel good about themselves. And I think you know, especially being a woman that was broken, and that was always looking for external fixes.

I really realized that, as mothers, we need to be the people that are strong, that have our mindsets intact. So that we can then make our children whole and complete and give them the foundations to become good fathers. And fathers or wives or, you know, independent or whatever they want to be in life. Rather than coming from a place of brokenness. It’s really important that we all come from a place of strength. So yeah, for me now, it’s literally just bettering myself every single day. I’m writing another book, doing some more courses, and just really promoting my courses and bits and pieces really so. And just getting out in the world and making a difference. I really want to make a difference in the world.

Pamela Bardhi
You are incredible Mimi, and now where can everybody find you?

Mimi Bland
Oh, so Instagram mimibland.london on Instagram and then my website again is www. mimibland.london. My book is on my website and on Amazon but um yeah, I just like to say really to anyone that’s out there that’s struggling or suffering or anything. Just realize that we have 24 hours each and every day to wake up and press the reset button on our lives. 24 hours and any moment in life, you can decide to make that change at any time. It doesn’t matter about your circumstances, it doesn’t matter who you are with, everything is an internal job. So even if you’re in an abusive relationship, if you’re in a job that you can’t stand or whatever the external environment is. Everything is an internal job, you change from the inside, then your externals will change as well.,

Pamela Bardhi
I love me, I 100% agree with you. And I just loved and adored our conversation. You are such a rockstar in many different realms. And I’m so so grateful to have you here today. You are such a blessing to this world. So just know your dream, your dream that you had as a kid is now alive.

Mimi Bland
You were absolutely amazing as well. You know, you’re such an inspiration and such an inspiration to so many people. So, thank you so much for having me this evening. It’s been an honor to talk to you as well.

Pamela Bardhi
Thank you, Mimi.