Gary Coxe
  • Motivational speaker, author, and businessman Gary Coxe changed his life to escape being held captive by a controlling cult and achieve remarkable success. Gary discusses how he overcame horrific personal tragedies, such as his father’s terrible murder and his wife’s heartbreaking betrayal, in this touching episode of the Underdog Podcast. Learn how his unwavering commitment and perseverance helped him launch a successful jewelry company as a teenager and become well-known in the personal development industry. Packed with Gary’s groundbreaking ideas, unique strategies, and a powerful message of endurance and growth, this episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to overcome challenges and unlock their potential.

    Gary Coxe is a renowned motivational speaker, author, and entrepreneur who has an incredible life story of overcoming hardship to achieve success. Gary was raised in a strict cult and was born and reared in Jamaica. His love of jewelry-making allowed him to break free from this environment. He started his first business at the age of eleven, and by the time he was fifteen, he was making $100,000 a year. Although he had to overcome some personal traumas along the way, his dedication to personal growth made it possible for him to perform on stages alongside industry icons like Zig Ziglar.

    Key Takeaways:

    • Importance of Belief and Value: Gary emphasizes that belief in one’s goals must be paired with a high level of importance placed on them. This combination naturally motivates individuals to take action and persist through challenges, underscoring the need for passion and commitment to achieve success.
    • Techniques for Mental Reprogramming: The unique methods for mental reprogramming, which help individuals break free from limiting beliefs and achieve their full potential. His focus on emotional regulation and the nervous system’s power highlights innovative approaches to personal development.
    • Persistence and Commitment: Gary’s advice to never give up is simple yet profound. He stresses that the journey to success is fraught with challenges, but those who remain persistent and committed to their goals will ultimately succeed. This is a motivational reminder for aspiring entrepreneurs and individuals seeking significant life changes.
    • Transformative Power of Mindset: Gary’s story is a testament to the transformative power of the right mindset and determination. It reminds listeners that no matter the adversity faced, achieving greatness is possible with the correct mental approach and unwavering resolve.

    Listen in to learn how to overcome obstacles, rewire your brain for success, and never give up on your dreams. It’s a powerful reminder that no matter where you start, with the right mindset and determination, you can achieve greatness.

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 Gary Coxe’s Journey to Jewelry Success, Overcoming Trauma and Healing

Pamela Bardhi: Hello, everyone, and welcome to the Underdog podcast. Today I am so honored to have my friend Gary. How are you?

Gary Coxe: I am well. How are you?

Pamela Bardhi: I’m doing awesome, Gary. You know, it’s one of those days where the universe just, like, throws a million things at you. But you always find a way to make it work.

Gary Coxe: Right, with the right attitude. You do, and you have. So kudos to you.

Pamela Bardhi: Amen, my friend, amen. I’m super excited to have you here today. I cannot wait to get into your story and just all the magic that you’ve created in your world. And just to hear the whole backstory and really all of that. So I’m super excited. What I tend to do is really all the way back. Because somehow it’s always connected from the very beginnings and the origins. Right. So, yeah.

Gary started his first business at 11 and then his second business at 15

Gary, question for you. As a kid growing up, like, what was your dream? What did you want to be when you grew up?

Gary Coxe: That’s an interesting question, because I actually grew up in a cult. So growing up in a cult, you’re limited to having dreams and so forth. I don’t recall actually really having any ambitions or desires as a kid until I got to 14 or 15, I guess.

Pamela Bardhi: That’s super interesting. So when you were 14 or 15, what was the dream?

Gary Coxe: At that point, I wanted to become a jeweller, so I started my first business. I actually started my first business at eleven, and then my second business at 15. And then shortly after that, I was doing $100,000 a year in my jewellery business.

Pamela Bardhi: Oh, my God. What brought you into the jewellery business?

Gary Coxe: I was. I’m originally from Jamaica, so, born and raised in Jamaica. We would go to the Cayman Islands every so often. In the Cayman Islands, there’s this coral called black coral, I think it’s illegal to harvest now because it’s so rare. And I watched the islanders make jewellery out of it, and I was fascinated by it, so I wanted to learn it. So I learned how to do it, and I would purchase it from divers, and I would make my jewellery. I would sell it in school. Then I had a friend of the family who was very successful, who had several jewellery stores.

Then I wanted to try to sell it to him. He wasn’t really that interested because it wasn’t, you know, high end type of stuff. So he made a deal with me, he said, I’ll tell you what I’ll do, I’ll consign you. At the time, it was quite a bit of money. It was decades ago, he says, I’ll consign you $500 worth of jewellery. You come back in a week. Whatever you don’t sell, I’ll take back from you, and then anything after that, you got to start purchasing outright. I started doing that, and I started selling jewellery to the girls in school. And I remember, you know, back then, you had these and you still do it.

Did they have these work experience programs where you work part time and you go to school part time? Well, I hated school so much, and I remember one day, I’ll never forget it. I was in the bathroom, and I had so much money, I wanted to count it. But I didn’t want anybody to see how much money I had because I didn’t want to get beat up. So I literally closed the bathroom stall, stood on the toilet, crunched down, started counting the money. Had $400, and this was decades ago. It’s like thousands of dollars today. And I’m thinking, okay, $400. Come here. Wasting my time coming to school that I absolutely hate.

I put in a notice to my principal that, look, here’s the deal. If you let me, for my senior year, do my own business full time, if you don’t, I’m going to quit. But I also, if you do, I want to walk away with my diploma. And because I don’t have a supervisor, I’m the supervisor, so I’m going to have to grade myself. He actually said yes. So for my senior year, I never showed up in school. Started making slowly after that, $100,000 a year and got a 4.0 average because I graded myself. It’s not what you know, but who you know, and that’s how I got my start.

Pamela Bardhi: Wow. Gary. Holy cow. That’s great, that’s so amazing. Growing up in Jamaica, that’s fantastic. Ah, that’s amazing. Then getting into this jewellery culture, that’s amazing, and consignment, I just can’t believe. Like, at that age, things were, like, where your mind was at that point to, you know, think about consignment. And I was like, that is so amazing.

Gary Coxe: Yeah, it was. It was a great start for me, and it opened so many doors, that’s for sure.

Pamela Bardhi: Oh, my goodness. And so being 15, the hundred thousand dollar business, what happened from there? Because, I mean, you know, once you realize you can make that kind of money, right. Like, when it comes to school, it’s kind of like, all right, see you later.

Gary says he learned to reprogram people very quickly through personal growth

So after that happened, what happened next.

Gary Coxe: On your journey then? There’s a space of about eight years or so. But then I started getting into the personal growth industry, I knew nothing about it. I was introduced to it. Somebody gave me a tape about somebody in personal growth. It was a cassette tape back then, I listened to it that it was intriguing that I heard it, and I said,


Gary Coxe: This guy is doing this and that, and he’s talking about he was ten pounds overweight or 40 pounds over whatever it was. I’m thinking, that is not a story, I got a story. So I figured out, okay, I want to do this, and six months later, I didn’t even know who Zig Ziglar was. Six months later, I was sharing the stage with Zig Ziglar. And what I’ve learned to do is because of the things I’ve been through, and I’ve learned to reprogram people very quickly. I had everything from my wife and I. We had a baby. She tells me it wasn’t mine. Get a phone call from my mother, let me know my father had been shot point blank in his chest. Drowned in his own blood, I was 17 years old when that happened.

Grandfather, and stepfather died of cancer. Uncle, killing a plane crash, literally, like, I don’t know, about 10 miles from here. Then being in the cult when I left the cult, your so called friends and family in the cult are programmed to shun you for life. Now that puts me in a tailspin. $350,000 in debt, I lost everything. Though I have been able to now understand and for years how to rewire their brain. And this is where I was fortunate to get on Doctor Phil, show the doctors. Did three years on that, taking people who’ve been through some major trauma. So I kind of have the little tagline I do in an hour what therapists or consultants can’t do in a year. I don’t say that arrogantly, but I know how we work and operate.

If I work with somebody, I can figure out and identify what their thought process is. Show them how to change it very quickly, for every belief you act on, you get a result. So if we’re not happy with the results that we get, one of the clues is we probably have to change our belief system. That’s only half of it. But if that is the case, we can identify the beliefs that are not getting us the right results. Then the next step is, okay, what’s the new belief system that I have to adopt? The faster you adopt that belief system with a couple other ingredients, change can be made very, very quickly. And these people that I work with, many of them have been in therapy. Like, 1020 years, and in one session with me, boom, it’s over.

Pamela Bardhi: With Mike drop, Gary. Mike dropped. That’s amazing, I know. I absolutely love that.

The problems that entrepreneurs face stem from trauma in their past, right

The things that you also described, too, that you’ve been through, I mean, that’s not easy stuff. We all know at the root of everything, our society has never been so alone. Right. You probably heard of the study with these plants that, you know, they put a plant that they didn’t feed on. Other one was left alone, and the other one, I think, was talked to, like, negatively. Which one do you think did the worst?

Gary Coxe: Right, and the thing is, when it comes to those who are listening that are entrepreneurs, the challenge. And it’s not just entrepreneurs, it’s relationships. The problems that you think you have, that you think are other people’s problems are basically trauma that you’ve experienced in your life. That is so true, because most people are not willing to admit what their problems are or when they do have a problem. It is so easy for us to blame other people because none of us want to be wrong, right? It’s just a human tendency. But I can study an entrepreneur who has a problem in their business, or somebody in a relationship.

And you peel the onion back a little bit, I can pretty much guarantee you the problem they’re having. Is something that stems from some kind of trauma that they have in their past. Whether they have to have some type of validation that is not good validation from other men or women or drugs. Or hanging with the wrong group, because it gives you validation, because you didn’t get your validation as your parents. These things overlap into our business. So ultimately, the problems that we have in our finances and in our businesses. Stem from the things that we have stuck in our emotional hard drive.

Pamela Bardhi: 1000%. Gary, you are right on the money with that. And it’s funny, right? When you said that, when I was at a conference in 2021, build conference in Dallas, there was, 5,000 people there. I had no business being there because it was Covid. So I remember Tony Robbins was speaking, and he literally said, business is a spiritual game, right? Like you said, if there’s these traumas, these blocks that you have, that’s going to block your ability to receive. That’s going to block your ability to be your highest and best sell, which then translates into your business, right? All of these things, like you were saying, it’s interconnected. You know, anyone who wants to be super good or super successful, super wealthy, whatever. You’ve got a lot of personal work to do first, my friend. Right?

Gary Coxe: 100%, yeah. And then it really overlaps in everything. How you hire, who you hire, who you fire, how you fire, how you treat your customers. There’s, it just all weaves together a thousand percent.

Pamela Bardhi: And what you were mentioning is that, the root of all of this. Of every block, of every situation, of any hardship that you’re having or even patterns that you’re seeing. If you’re seeing patterns in your life, that just means that it’s a continuum of lessons you have yet to learn, right? So if it showed up once and then it showed up again, and then it showed up again. It’s something that you got, you know, that. That’s the universe saying, hey, seen this before.

Gary Coxe: Wake up, wake up.

Pamela Bardhi: You gotta heal it. Right?

Gary Shapiro: Number one is belief. It’s very vital to our success

So, I know that there’s a lot of people listening right now that maybe have some sort of block. Some sort of trauma, some sort of something going on, right? We’re all human and we were always going through something. I’d love to hear, Gary, kind of your perspective or like, your advice on how you would navigate through that. If you’re someone who’s struggling right now, how do you get to the root of that? How do you do this? Reprogramming through, or is there a way to do that?

Gary Coxe: Yeah, well. Ultimately, when somebody has a pattern that’s being repeated over and over like you’re talking about, how do you change that? Well, first of all, that’s the biggest part. You have to acknowledge it, you cannot change what you do not acknowledge. And the worst cancer to success is the inability to acknowledge that something that you’re doing needs to be changed. If you’re not willing to do that and you’re not there. No pill, no medicine, no book, no thought process, no seminar, no nothing is going to assist you. So how open are you as a person that’s wanting to grow in your relationships or anywhere else? How open are you to acknowledge that? Wait a minute, this behavior is not good, it’s not right. You’re really at another level when you can identify it within yourself.

A lot of times we have to go to therapy or people will go to therapy. Because when you’re the picture in the frame, it’s hard to identify what your true core issues are. Then once you identify what the true core issues are, the next thing is, do you have a strategy? What’s the strategy? And the challenge with me sharing these strategies with you is if ten people come to me, Pamela, with ten different problems. I’m probably going to answer the same question ten different ways to ten different people. Because one person may be sexually abused, one person may have been beat up, one person may have been abandoned. So their thought process and belief systems will be different. Even though the results for all of them seem to be the same. I know that’s a very generic way of answering it.

But I’d rather answer that then just give a bunch of hogwash to people and say, well, you got to be positive and whatnot. The thing is, when you’re able to identify what the patterns are, then you can change them. And the problem, I think what’s out there, there’s so many gurus that just talk trash. Trash, meaning all they do is repeat something they have heard from somebody else. They repeat it and they repeat it and then repeat it, and unfortunately, it’s a disservice to this industry. It’s a disservice to people’s mental health, because, for example, one of the popular ones that you hear is belief. Belief is everything, belief is not everything, there’s a lot of people who believe that get no results. So then if belief is everything, why does somebody believe and get no results?

There’s more to it than that, there’s only two things. And two things only that cause us to have the desire and motivation to succeed at anything. Pamela? Number one is belief, it’s very vital to our success. The second thing is, and without this second thing, this is where people screw up. If you’ve heard this before, which I’m sure you have. Most people will tell you, like, if you’re on, an event or whatnot. They’ll tell you things like why I should make you cry. Your why is so important to you, and your why is important to you. Then some people will say, well, why are you successful? Say, well, I’m successful because I have a great why. Well, everybody has a why. So how is it that some people succeed with a why and other people that don’t succeed and have the same why?

Here’s the answer. The answer is the value or the level of importance you place on something. So we all have a why, but when you place a higher value on it. Coupled with a high belief, then you have the natural ability to take action. If you just have belief and no value, or you don’t have a clear definition of why you want to do this. You don’t have a level of importance on it, you can tell yourself to your blue, in your face. I’m going to be successful, you will take no action. On the other hand, you can have a massive desire and a high level of importance of why you want to succeed. But you don’t believe you can do it, you will now still take no action.

What happens is when your value and belief is very high, you’ll have the natural ability to take action. Then when you get into the real world and you get beat up emotionally or psychologically, you can’t do this. Or maybe there’s financial strain or financial pressure, if you’re not careful, your value and belief starts to decrease. The average person does not have the ability to have learned. I should say we all have the ability. But has not learned the skill in identifying when their value and belief is declining. If you’re not able to identify when your value and belief is declining, then you aren’t able to stop it. So then if you’re unable to stop it, you’re like this. Now you become a kite in the wind. Wherever you get blown, that’s where you go. How’s that for an answer?

Pamela Bardhi: That is absolutely key. Well, because a lot of people these days, right? So they’ve heard of the secret, they’ve heard of manifestation, they’ve heard of all of these things, right? Why is this not working for me? That’s what they are, that’s what so many people are saying. Like, I keep saying it, I keep writing it, I keep thinking about it. I’m like, what’s, why am I not having my breakthroughs, right? And I’m like, I tend to explain this. I say, well, here’s the thing. You can ask the universe for cake. The universe gives you all the tools to do it. They’re not. It’s not gonna give you the cake, you gotta put in the work, right?

Gary Coxe: It’s all about that. I’m not knocking the secret. But I think one of the reasons the secret did so well is because it appeals to the lazy mind. And by thinking that you’re going to have a million dollars come into your mailbox or your whatever. Those are the ones that’s coming from Nigeria with the crazy people that I found $50 million, and you’re the beneficiary to it. Right, it’s work. I mean, I’ll tell you, if somebody wants to be an entrepreneur. Anybody who has got any level of success as an entrepreneur, they’ll tell you it is a tough way to go. Some people are built for it, some people are not built for it. But you’ve got to put the time and you’re going to get out what you put in. Period. End of story.

Pamela Bardhi: Absolutely, Gary. And it’s all mindset at the end of the day, right?

There are several ways to heal from trauma, depending on the person

It’s these challenges, being able to keep going. Despite all these things that get thrown at you while you’re trying to balance your traumas and trying to do all these things.

Gary Coxe: Right. It’s a juggle.

Pamela Bardhi: What’s the secret sauce, what’s the secret sauce with that? It’s like, how is it that entrepreneurs can take certain things. And the most successful ones, and really just, like, keep moving forward, you know, and now through all of that stuff? So I would love to hear your insight on, like, okay, how do you tackle trauma, like, right on its head? You know, there are a lot of people listening right now that are thinking about entering the entrepreneurship realm. Or want to or, you know, there’s a bunch of different kinds of individuals that are listening to this.

Some are really about to make the jump. So what would be your recommendation, Gary, in your opinion, based on what you’ve seen with clients, what’s been the. The best piece of advice to help get them through a certain period in their life. To kind of face those traumas head on, because, as we know, you and I know, this is not a fun process. People think that healing is like you’re sitting under this tree and meditating. And gravy when the whole release process is actually, not really that fun.

Gary Coxe: Yeah, I would say there’s several ways to heal. But again, it’s really difficult to answer that question, depending on the person.

Pamela Bardhi: Right?

Gary Coxe: There’s so many, I’ll give you one particular thing, when my father was murdered. I’ve seen this on tv, when somebody’s family member is murdered. You’ll hear the surviving family, this is one thing they do that keeps them from healing. They want to know why, why did you kill my daughter, why did you shoot my father? And all? Why does, asking why in this particular case does nothing for your healing? Can you imagine if I find, the person who murdered my father and I said to him, why did you kill him? Do you really think whatever answer he’s going to give me. I’m going to say to him, oh, man, I feel so much better now that I know why?

That’s just beyond stupid. So me trying to hunt him down and find this man and why did you do this? Whatever answer he’s going to give me is not going to solve anything. Why am I wasting my brain cells for that? That is just one small, typical example I can give you. There are tons of different examples. And this is why I say, Pamela, I have to know what the situation is for the person that heals. But I will tell you this. For every emotion that we experience in life, whether it be positive or negative, we will either do one or two things. We’re going to ignore it or we’re going to reward it.

So the reason, unfortunately, when it’s a negative emotion, the problem is when we face it again. We have a tendency to reward it because it’s less psychologically painful. And when we reward it, all we’re doing is emotionally. We’re building our graves deeper and deeper. The reason and how that actually happens is the nervous system. Which is one of my secret sauces when I’m on stage and I program somebody on stage. This is all done, by the way, without hypnosis. I help the audience understand, the nervous system cannot tell the difference between imagination and reality.

What happens is, when you think about your trauma, if you have created a negative association to your trauma. You are emotionally digging the grave deeper and deeper and deeper. So when I talk to you and tell you that my father was murdered, I don’t have all this. Oh, my God, there’s nothing negatively programming my nervous system. When I tell you my wife had a baby with one of my employees that happened to be 15 years of age. I’m not reliving that negative experience in my nervous system, which emotionally makes my life a miserable thing. It doesn’t work that way because I’m in control of that. So these are just some of the things.

So with that being understood, when you’re thinking about some of the trauma in your past or suppressing it. You’re now actually rewarding it and making it worse. The problem with that is the longer you take to fix it, the deeper we dig the emotional grave. That’s where the biggest problem is. Then it becomes harder in many cases for you to really make that shift and have what I refer to as emotional freedom. And when we have emotional freedom. What happens is we can start the day off saying, we’re going to do this, this, and this. But when all these problems come up, because you’ve learned how to manage it. You continue to do this, this and this, and how do we get results? We get results by taking action.

Gary Coxe: So by eliminating a lot of this or controlling your emotional hard drive and cleaning it out. You’re just able to move and move and move and make things happen.

Pamela Bardhi: And you mentioned something super important that your nervous system doesn’t know what’s imagination and what’s relay.

Gary Coxe: Correct.

Pamela Bardhi: Which is, I mean, the mind works in the same sphere, right?

Gary Coxe: So, 100%.

Pamela Bardhi: Hm.

Gary Coxe: So this is why people for. I’ll give you an example. Let’s say that we’re together and we’re in a household, and we have a baby that’s barely two years old. 02:00 in the morning, the baby screams bloody murder, I mean, it’s just freaking out. We have no idea what in the heck happened. Before the baby went to bed, it was watching a National Geographic show with a snake slithering through the forest. That’s all. And then it had a dream that it’s not old enough to tell you what the dream was about. The child got swallowed by the snake. Now every time the child in its infancy of two years old thinks about that dream, what’s it doing? Programming the nervous system. That child now is phobic of a snake and doesn’t even know how it happens. Boom. Crazy.

Pamela Bardhi: That’s so crazy because that’s how I think, that’s how it started with me. I had, like, there were water snakes in my. In the lake of my grandfather’s village growing up. I have this memory where it was, like, chasing me in the water, and I freaked out. And, like, since then, I cannot. Even if I see a garden snake, I’ll lose it.

Gary Coxe: Right?

Pamela Bardhi: So that’s so funny that you mentioned that. It’s so true. We can create our own realities in our own mind and not even be, like, aware. Because our subconscious mind is just trying to protect us. Right? Yeah.

Gary Coxe: That’s where you have to take the subconscious to the conscious, because now you’re really aware of what’s going on. And then once you have that awareness, then you have the choice to ignore or reward. But once you get to the point where you get that acute awareness. Then the next step is now we have to figure out how to ignore it and not reward it. Because if you reward it, you’ll never make a change. You ignore it, you take a different course. Totally different course.

But the reason it’s hard to ignore it is because as humans, we have a tendency to be a slave to our feelings. And when you’re a slave to our feelings. You’ve been programmed to be a slave to your feelings from the day we were born. Because we were told when we were born, what’s the first thing that we did?

Emotional regulation starts with awareness first and then brings it down

We started to cry. And for years, we’re just a constant slave to our feelings. We start getting a little older, we have a little bit more control. But still, if we’re not careful, you stop and think about how many times, if you watch somebody. How many times throughout a day are they actually responding because they’re actually rewarding their emotions, negative or positive. That is why when I get really excited about something, drop my excitement down, then I bring it back up.

So I’m consciously aware that I have control of the emotions and I can change them. I don’t wait till they’re negative and bad to change them. I want to be aware when they’re good and I’m happy and I can adjust them. Because if I’m aware that I can do it when I’m excited, then I’ll definitely be aware to do it when I’m not excited. And something is controlling me where I want to stop it.

Pamela Bardhi: I absolutely love that emotional regulation at its finest. That is the hardest part about all of this stuff, I mean, you know, people get overwhelmed. They get overwhelmed, they lash out, and then they react to the environment. And, I mean, it turns into a whole situation, total can of worms, and then that’s when you get into an emotional mess. Then when you get into that emotional mess, then that’s when people will go. That’s how addictions sometimes begin to start. Because you don’t know how to emotionally regulate, and it just turns into something, right? Welcome to the can of worms, that our society is currently in an easy way out.

Gary Coxe: And that’s where people, you know, why during the pandemic and the depression and recessions. Why is alcohol such an incredibly highly consumed product? Because people are emotionally strained. They don’t know how to manage those emotions. So, boom, we go to a way that we feel that we can get a quicker solution.

Pamela Bardhi: You’re absolutely right, Gary. It all comes down to that emotional regulation and starts with awareness first and then brings it down. And you can learn to control those emotions once you face it, right? Your body’s trying to face it, that’s the whole thing. Oh, my God, I love that. I love that. That’s really the secret sauce to really the antidote to emotional regulation in general, which then your emotional health is. Everything links to all other things.

Gary Coxe: Right?

Pamela Bardhi: Your mental health, everything else. I love that, Gary.

Gary Cox offers advice to anyone looking to change their behavior

And, you know, with your life experiences and everything that you’ve done today, I mean, you’ve done some remarkable things. Helping people reprogram is like, the greatest gift in the whole wide world that changes their life. Literally, it changes lives.

Gary Coxe: It does.

Pamela Bardhi: I’m curious to hear, from your perspective, what would your older self tell your younger self based on what you know now? Because they could be business, professional, personal, anything. I would just be curious to know, I always have the best question for us.

Gary Coxe: You know, I hear I get that question often, and it’s a tough question for me. Because of being raised in the cult, and I really didn’t have a lot of control, regarding how I was raised. So there’d be so many things like, get the heck out of there, you know? That’s something that I really didn’t have a lot of control of until I got older.

Gary Coxe: So it’s a tough question for me.

Pamela Bardhi: No, no, absolutely. And what’s the best piece of advice you would give to anyone listening right now who’s looking to change their behavior? Reprogram or kind of break? Have a breakthrough, if you will.

Gary Coxe: You know, as simple as and cliche as it sounds, never, never give up. Never give up. And it’s so easy to want to get. In fact, my eyes are, I’m literally getting teary eyed on this. It’s so easy to want to give up. Those who succeed, truly, never, never, never give up. You’ve got to figure out, do you want it bad enough? Don’t go down this path unless or whatever the path is, unless you want it bad enough. You don’t want it bad enough, you will not succeed. Period. End of story, you’ve got to really want this.

Pamela Bardhi: Amen, Gary. You’re absolutely right. Never, never giving up, no matter how hard. It’s, like, even if it’s just a day where you need to take some time for yourself. Especially the high powered entrepreneurs, right? Because we feel like if we’re not doing something that we’re not successful, right. But, like, taking a day to really calm yourself, bring that awareness in, can change everything, right? Just not being afraid, even if it’s little steps forward, just keep going. Keep going. So I love that. I love that, Gary. I’m sure for everyone who’s listening right now, they would love to know what you’re up to in the next few months. And also where they can find you in your awesomeness and learn more.

Gary Coxe: Well, that’s very kind of you. They can hit us up on all social media, we’re on Facebook and Instagram pretty much, but YouTube as well. It’s Gary Coxe. G a r y c o x e. Don’t forget the e. C o x e. Or they go to my website, dot. Next couple months, we’re starting to get back on the road where I’m going to be doing, speaking engagements all over. So we’re putting ads out right now to have people hire me to bring me into their events.

And I do some one-on-one consultation. I don’t do a lot of that anymore because of my scheduling, but that’s pretty much in a nutshell. Yeah, that’s it. Just, and more tv shows. We’re going to start doing that again because I enjoy doing tv. And, you know, reaching out to the masses with my message as much as I can.

Pamela Bardhi: Love, that. Gary, you are amazing. It’s been such a gift to have you here today. Thank you so much.

Gary Coxe: Thank you for having me.

Pamela Bardhi: You’re amazing.

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